What drives me

This is one question I get asked fairly regularly and one the recipient couple asked me immediately. There are a few answers to this question so I'll bullet point it all to make it look cool ;)

• We had it easy in terms of conception. At the time for both babies it felt like it was taking forever but realistically, it didn't. Apparently, there is normally a 25% (ish) chance of conception per month and only 65% of couples will have conceived in the first six months*

• I have a couple of friends with fertility issues who have either been through IVF or might have to at some stage in the future. I can't even imagine having to go down that road. 

• Faith. Sounds a bit cheesy but having faith in something much bigger than myself really is a driving force. I believe in Jesus but I know for some its not as simple as that. From that belief it follows on to the old adage (and bible verse- Luke 6:31) of "Do to others as you would like them to do to you." I would hope that if we were in the situation that we needed an egg donor, someone would put up their hands and say 'I will'. This is a huge driving force for me in many aspects of my life. Looking at it from this perspective it seems such an easy decision and in some ways it was. 

Have you ever had the innate urge to do something for someone? Or even just a driving force behind the thought "I have to do that". That's how it feels for me. 

I've been talking to many people about this process lately (I'm such an open book sometimes. It has its good points and bad points) and one of the biggest comments I get is one about generosity. 

Yes, its a generous thing to do. But I just want to make this clear- just because I'm doing this, it doesn't mean I think i'm more generous than anyone else. Everyone has their giftings. This perhaps is just one of my gifts. 

Hope that makes sense :)

xJ

*Fertility associates http://www.fertilityassociates.co.nz/understanding-your-fertility.aspx